Some people make it happen, some people watch it happen, and some people say “What happened?” – Anonymous -
Skill development is a key to success in any venture. Skills are sets of behaviors that must be learned. They are not acquired automatically, but take work to develop and use. Here’s how you can start.
When trying a new skill, you may feel some anxiety. It isn’t comfortable to try out new behaviors. They don’t “fit” yet. To overcome this natural, normal sensation of nervousness, just relax! You’ll get a handle on the skill with continued practice.
Bennis, Warren; Schein, Edgar; Steele, Fred; & Berlew, David. (1968). Personal change through interpersonal relationships. In Interpersonal dynamics: Essays and readings on human interaction (pp. 333-369). Homewood, IL: Dorsey.
Authors discuss the three step process of developing a new skill first presented by the social psychologist Kurt Lewin.
Johnson, David W. (1972) Reaching out: Interpersonal effectiveness and self-actualization (p. 6). Engelwood Cliffs, NJ: Prentice-Hall.
Author presents a five step process of developing a new skill.
Tubbs, Stewart L. (1984). A systems approach to small group interaction (2nd ed.) (pp. 334-337). Reading, MA: Addison-Wesley.
Author presents both Lewin’s and Johnson’s models for learning a new skill.
Schein, Edgar H. (n.d.). Kurt Lewin’s change theory in the field and in the classroom: Notes toward a model of managed learning. (PDF).
Schein is one of the authors of the Bennis et. al. book chapter listed above. He presents an excellent discussion of Lewin’s change theory.
Watch this video for a new view of learning anything — you will see that the idea of breaking down skills is huge, but there is more to it than that — you need to define precisely what you want to learn and pre-commit to spending at least twenty hours to learn it.